Why I don’t wear makeup, but others need to

I have a confession to make – I don’t wear makeup. I was once advised that makeup might help ‘normalise’ my facial features. You must be joking me, I thought to myself. But I said nothing and kept my thoughts to myself, unusually for me. But the suggestion was meant in good spirit. And the word ‘normalise’ was not said in a kind of ‘God … Continue reading Why I don’t wear makeup, but others need to

‘Freedom’ proves an illusion, love doesn’t

Ah well, the best laid plans can sometimes go unexpectedly wrong. With the missus away in Amsterdam, I was looking forward to my last night of ‘freedom’ on Saturday. A quick call to check the good lady was enjoying herself that evening and I was about to reach for the phone to order an Indian takeaway when I realised that slight queasiness in my stomach … Continue reading ‘Freedom’ proves an illusion, love doesn’t

No, I don’t need professional help

A tweet today suggested I needed professional help. It was one of a few I have received either hinting or declaring that I might benefit from such treatment. To be honest, I was a little shocked, but perhaps the intensity and rawness of particular episodes in my life have convinced some I am still hurting. Wrong. Yes, I do still have the occasional awkward moment … Continue reading No, I don’t need professional help

Holy smoke. Dirty tactics on the chess board and how I survived

My opponent was sitting across the chess board blowing cigar smoke into my face. It wasn’t accidental either as I quickly realised. This guy meant business and was determined to use any tactic he could get away with. And he did because there were no rules then against smoking – this was back in the 1970s when the board was governed by limited rules, but … Continue reading Holy smoke. Dirty tactics on the chess board and how I survived

Trying to find romance in the personal ads

Ever consider responding to the personal ads section of a newspaper? I did and lived to tell the tale. I think I was 27 when I first decided to take a different approach to meeting women. As a permanent night worker with no real social life it was next to impossible to meet females, so when our women's editor, Maureen Fox, ran a sort of … Continue reading Trying to find romance in the personal ads

If I could turn back time and be a teenager again

We all occasionally wonder how we would do things differently if we had our time back again. Sometimes, it’s wanting to wind the clock back on a job interview you mishandled, or perhaps something you said to someone. But how about changing your teenage years? For me the rot started there. That was when I began to internalise issues and allowed myself dwell too much … Continue reading If I could turn back time and be a teenager again