An inspiring new Katie Piper show

Your face is the first thing other people see when they meet you, which is why facial disfigurement is so devastating. It’s not just the physical difference that sets us apart, it’s also the psychological damage it causes us. That facial difference saps our confidence, fills us with fear, and if we cannot deal with it, limits our horizons. People point and stare when they … Continue reading An inspiring new Katie Piper show

Cutting response to plea for help

My friend hadn’t had her hair cut in four years. Yes, FOUR years. She had been afraid to go out publicly, other than to work because of a facial disfigurement she acquired which depressed her. Those years had been a living hell, made all the more difficult because she is middle aged and so uncomfortable with her face. Her friends have largely deserted her, failing … Continue reading Cutting response to plea for help

RIP Brendan Prendiville, the genius who rebuilt my face

Brendan Prendiville died last month. His death may have escaped you – it certainly might have done so for me too but for the vigilance of my¬†Irish Times¬†reading sister-in-law Margaret who spotted an acknowledgement to him in the paper and alerted Trish. Of course the name means nothing to you, but to me he was a God. Yes, Prendiville played that role in my life … Continue reading RIP Brendan Prendiville, the genius who rebuilt my face

My TV night with Ray and Emily

Well, my one shot at TV fame has come and gone. The studio lights have darkened and it’s back to reality at Teamwork.com. I had everyone’s attention for about five minutes and now it’s back to work. Ah well, you can’t have everything. Being on the Ray D’Arcy Show live was a terrific experience, although it’s funny the things that bother you. Emily Savage and … Continue reading My TV night with Ray and Emily

10 lessons I learned from living with facial disfigurement

I can’t live my life all over again, but if I could offer some advice to a younger Tom then there are 10 things I would say: You can’t change your disfigured face, but you can change your attitude. Don’t surrender to negative thoughts. The biggest enemy is yourself, not anyone else. Don’t find that out the hard way. Don’t stop yourself from meeting people, … Continue reading 10 lessons I learned from living with facial disfigurement

A new look for Changing Faces

If you haven’t checked out the new look Changing Faces then you should. Apart from a refreshed look, it also presents facially disfigured people in a positive way – happy images with powerful words we all want to hear. It’s about empowering us to take control of our lives and not be defeated by fear, the staring from others who should know better, and the … Continue reading A new look for Changing Faces

5 ways to say hello without staring

I’ll be honest and say it took me a long time to deal with people staring at my face – too long. Of course I’m not alone. Many others with a facial difference take many years to make that adjustment. But some never come to terms with their face and how people objectify them. When I curated the @ireland account on Twitter a few months … Continue reading 5 ways to say hello without staring