Still in love after all these years

How time flies when you’re having fun. A mere 32 years ago I married Trish, whom I had met for the first time a bare 10 months earlier. When you fall in love with someone you imagine somehow you’ll live happily ever afterwards. Life doesn’t work like that. We have been through some pain since then, but also a lot of joy. Quite a few … Continue reading Still in love after all these years

Songs in the key of life

The ’70s and early ’80s were desperately bleak periods in my life, when I found it impossible to accept my facial disfigurement. I wanted to believe a girl could like me, could somehow see past my facial scars, but I wallowed in self-pity and fear. One of the things that helped keep me sane was a love of music, and because I didn’t drink or … Continue reading Songs in the key of life

How to save your marriage on the cheap

It’s the little things that keep a marriage together: the occasional bunch of flowers, YOU paying for a lunch or dinner (well, I am out of work), telling your partner she can have control of the TV because Man United aren’t playing tonight. Unfortunately, my ability to trip up occasionally (occasionally? I can hear her shriek) means trouble. Trish and I have been together almost … Continue reading How to save your marriage on the cheap

Why did I bother getting up?

I hope you had a better morning than I did. I’ve been nursing a cold and chest infection for the past few days, but today I planned to do something about it – like see a doctor! Miraculously, Trish was able to secure me an appointment at 10am, so off I went, and I parked the car close to the doctor’s surgery. Chest infection confirmed … Continue reading Why did I bother getting up?

We all need the company of friends

One big drawback of being unemployed last year was not having my own transport. It meant I was dependent on the bus to meet people, especially as I live in Ballincollig, seven miles from Cork city. Social media is great for maintaining contact with people, and of course you can email or ring people too, but there’s no substitute for talking to people face to … Continue reading We all need the company of friends