Still in love after all these years

How time flies when you’re having fun. A mere 32 years ago I married Trish, whom I had met for the first time a bare 10 months earlier. When you fall in love with someone you imagine somehow you’ll live happily ever afterwards. Life doesn’t work like that. We have been through some pain since then, but also a lot of joy. Quite a few … Continue reading Still in love after all these years

Songs in the key of life

The ’70s and early ’80s were desperately bleak periods in my life, when I found it impossible to accept my facial disfigurement. I wanted to believe a girl could like me, could somehow see past my facial scars, but I wallowed in self-pity and fear. One of the things that helped keep me sane was a love of music, and because I didn’t drink or … Continue reading Songs in the key of life

How to save your marriage on the cheap

It’s the little things that keep a marriage together: the occasional bunch of flowers, YOU paying for a lunch or dinner (well, I am out of work), telling your partner she can have control of the TV because Man United aren’t playing tonight. Unfortunately, my ability to trip up occasionally (occasionally? I can hear her shriek) means trouble. Trish and I have been together almost … Continue reading How to save your marriage on the cheap

Cutting response to plea for help

My friend hadn’t had her hair cut in four years. Yes, FOUR years. She had been afraid to go out publicly, other than to work because of a facial disfigurement she acquired which depressed her. Those years had been a living hell, made all the more difficult because she is middle aged and so uncomfortable with her face. Her friends have largely deserted her, failing … Continue reading Cutting response to plea for help